GTKY - Sexy Time Edition (Edited as @MH1006 was so sweet and showed me the error of my ways)!

amandaf6383 · April 2014

1a) How often do you and your hubby have sex?

1b) Who is usually the initiator?

2) Favorite position?

3) Do toys ever make their way into the equation?

4) Spanking - Ouch NO! or Yes please?

5) Slow and romantic or fast and rough?

6) The bum - exit only or part of the fun?

7) Porn - gross or a turn on?

8) Has sex with DH changed since beginning TTC?

9) Noises - Shhhhhh don't wake up the neighbors or LOUD AND PROUD?

10) Most embarrassing sex mishap?

LooneyLife · April 2014

Although I'm not comfortable participating, I just wanted to acknowledge the effort to start conversation.

islandmonkey8 · April 2014

1a) How often do you and your hubby have sex? Average? 4x a week. But there will be weeks with like 1x and weeks with everyday/multiple times a day.

1b) Who is usually the initiator? Actually, we both are. It used to be just DH but that was while I was on BC. Since then, we're pretty equally initiative.

2) Favorite position? Me - doggy style. DH - a weird sideways thing laying down in bed.

3) Do toys ever make their way into the equation? After 10 years together? Yup!

4) Spanking - Ouch NO! or Yes please? Sometimes. Not often.

5) Slow and romantic or fast and rough? Slow and rough. Or fast and rough. Romantic is usually just initially, doesn't last long if I get my way!

6) The bum - exit only or part of the fun? Sometimes part of the fun... not that often though.

7) Porn - gross or a turn on? Turn on.

8) Has sex with DH changed since beginning TTC? Eh, not really. It's rare that we don't want sex but have to have it. Maybe only like 3 times since starting.

9) Noises - Shhhhhh don't wake up the neighbors or LOUD AND PROUD? LOUD AND PROUD! :-D

10) Most embarrassing sex mishap? Bed on wheels and it fell out from under me and I thought I broke something.

sweetpotato123 · April 2014

Ditto LL. I can say sex is so much better after we started IUIs and now IVF. The stress of baby making is gone and now sex is back to being just fun.

nightmare_of_beauty · April 2014

1a) How often do you and your hubby have sex? I'd say 2-3 times a week

1b) Who is usually the initiator? I would say he does more than me, but I've had plenty of moments myself.

2) Favorite position? His is doggy. I like to change things up depending on my mood

3) Do toys ever make their way into the equation? Yes

4) Spanking - Ouch NO! or Yes please? Yes!

5) Slow and romantic or fast and rough? Again, depends on the situation, usually it's slow and rough

6) The bum - exit only or part of the fun? Exit only, I experimented for a bit, but I really don't like it

7) Porn - gross or a turn on? Turn on

8) Has sex with DH changed since beginning TTC? It did for a bit, but during this break we've worked to make it better

9) Noises - Shhhhhh don't wake up the neighbors or LOUD AND PROUD? Loud and proud!

10) Most embarrassing sex mishap? We broke the bed frame in our first apartment

lfk2013 · April 2014

1a) It varies, but at the least 3x a week. I get antsy if it goes longer than 3 days between ST. :-D
1b) It depends. A majority of the time it's DH, but we always have amazing sex when I initiate.

2) Doggy style.

3) They do sometimes. Most of the time we're pretty boring.

4) Spanking during foreplay (not hard) is fun, but it weirds me out when we're going at it.

5) I like both, but we end up somewhere in the middle.

6) Exit only. I'm not a fan.

7) I don't think it's gross, it's just not our cup of tea.

8) Since we're TTA, nothing's changed yet, but I'm sure once we do start TTC I'll initiate more based on where I am in the cycle.

9) I can get loud.

10) Aside from saying "Wrong hole!", I have accidentally let a fart slip. I was mortified. DH thought it was funny.

brij2006 · April 2014

1a) How often do you and your hubby have sex? Depends on the week. Sometimes 3-4x's, sometimes 1-2.

1b) Who is usually the initiator? It's 50/50 now that I'm off BC. While on BC it was all him.

2) Favorite position? Doggie style where I lay all the way down and he's flat on top of me. Amazing!

3) Do toys ever make their way into the equation? No.

4) Spanking - Ouch NO! or Yes please? Depends on the mood.

5) Slow and romantic or fast and rough? Slow and romantic.

6) The bum - exit only or part of the fun? Exit only.

7) Porn - gross or a turn on? No thanks.

8) Has sex with DH changed since beginning TTC? Oh yes. We actually have a lot more of it and feel like it's a lot more fun, but part of that is because BC killed my sex drive to where I never wanted it at all.

9) Noises - Shhhhhh don't wake up the neighbors or LOUD AND PROUD? Depends, but I love it when he makes noise.

10) Most embarrassing sex mishap? Rough, heated sex turned into me thinking the bed was behind me and letting my body fall onto it. Nope, hard floor was behind me and I slammed flat on my back and ass.

mrsskiz · April 2014

1a) How often do you and your hubby have sex? Not nearly enough maybe once a week right now.

1b) Who is usually the initiator? He always is. I have tried, but if hes not in the mood it always feels forced.

2) Favorite position? Doggy for both of us.

3) Do toys ever make their way into the equation? No. Not against it though

4) Spanking - Ouch NO! or Yes please? Yes, please.

5) Slow and romantic or fast and rough? Fast and Rough

6) The bum - exit only or part of the fun? We have our moments

7) Porn - gross or a turn on? Turn on

8) Has sex with DH changed since beginning TTC? Yeah. Not in a good way. It feels too forced.

9) Noises - Shhhhhh don't wake up the neighbors or LOUD AND PROUD? Loud and Proud!

10) Most embarrassing sex mishap? We thought we were being slick on vacation one time and BIL started clapping when we walked out of the bathroom. I guess I wasnt being as quiet as I thought I was.

Sewilson33 · April 2014

1a) How often do you and your hubby have sex? It all depends on my mood and timing. Around O, every day. Otherwise 3-4 x a week.

1b) Who is usually the initiator? Both

2) Favorite position? Dh stands and I lay on the edge of the bed.

3) Do toys ever make their way into the equation? Nope

4) Spanking - Ouch NO! or Yes please? Haha I don't think we ever really did that.

5) Slow and romantic or fast and rough? Either way... all depends on our moods.

6) The bum - exit only or part of the fun? Ew NO!! NO NO!!!

7) Porn - gross or a turn on? I don't mind the idea of a little porn

8) Has sex with DH changed since beginning TTC? Yeah - we have sex a lot more but sometimes it is sooooo scheduled it gets boring. I try to remind him we need to play more than work.

9) Noises - Shhhhhh don't wake up the neighbors or LOUD AND PROUD? None of my neighbors are close enough to hear us.

10) Most embarrassing sex mishap? I've shared this numerous times.... when I butt dialed my Dad during ST. Yup that happened!

amandaf6383 · April 2014

1a) How often do you and your hubby have sex? Usually 3-4 times per week, sometimes less, sometimes more (esp around O).

1b) Who is usually the initiator? We both are.

2) Favorite position? Doggy although he tries to get lazy sometimes and do the spooning in bed sex thing.

3) Do toys ever make their way into the equation? Not usually toys, although we have, but we do like a little role-playing.

4) Spanking - Ouch NO! or Yes please? Not really but I like hair pulling.

5) Slow and romantic or fast and rough? Fast and rough.

6) The bum - exit only or part of the fun? Mehhhh. Special occasions only.

7) Porn - gross or a turn on? Turn on for sure.

8) Has sex with DH changed since beginning TTC? Around O when I get really insistent he gets annoyed sometimes but for the most part we haven't let it affect us.

9) Noises - Shhhhhh don't wake up the neighbors or LOUD AND PROUD? Loud and PROUD!

10) Most embarrassing sex mishap? Breaking a bed. And it wasn't ours. lol.

iwalktheline · April 2014

Warning: I'm pretty vanilla

1a) How often do you and your hubby have sex? On average, 2-3 days/week

1b) Who is usually the initiator? We both do, but DH probably a bit more

2) Favorite position? missionary.

3) Do toys ever make their way into the equation? Very rarely

4) Spanking - Ouch NO! or Yes please? I'm not against it, but it's not something we often do

5) Slow and romantic or fast and rough? Both! Depending on the day

6) The bum - exit only or part of the fun? Exit only please

7) Porn - gross or a turn on? It can be a turn on... But I usually only like it when drunk

8) Has sex with DH changed since beginning TTC? Not really. It's just as good as ever

9) Noises - Shhhhhh don't wake up the neighbors or LOUD AND PROUD? Somewhere in between?

10) Most embarrassing sex mishap? Hmm... The first time we ever tried doggy style, I queefed really loudly when he pulled out. That's the only time that ever happened

wiggyslilsis · April 2014

1a) How often do you and your hubby have sex? Once or twice a week which is pretty good for us.

1b) Who is usually the initiator? Me...because DH doesn't like getting turned down so now I have to let him know if I want it or not.

2) Favorite position? This has changed over time. I have no idea on names...DH likes him in top with my legs over his shoulders. I like a flattened version of doggy style.

3) Do toys ever make their way into the equation? Just my little buzzer.

4) Spanking - Ouch NO! or Yes please? Nah not for us.

5) Slow and romantic or fast and rough? We always do slow and romantic but I wouldn't mind some fast and rough

6) The bum - exit only or part of the fun? Exit only...both of us agree

7) Porn - gross or a turn on? I wouldn't say it is gross but we don't/haven't used it

8) Has sex with DH changed since beginning TTC? We rarely had sex when TTC...just when we had to. I had a lot of pain with sex. I have little to no pain now so we are in a much better place.

9) Noises - Shhhhhh don't wake up the neighbors or LOUD AND PROUD? Combination. Gotta know how to make noise without causing problems.

10) Most embarrassing sex mishap? Nothing really fun...maybe just DH slamming my head into the wall trying to try new positions.

LuckyAngel07 · April 2014

1a) How often do you and your hubby have sex? Usually, ~2x/week...lately...not so much. I just haven't been able to finish.

1b) Who is usually the initiator? He used to be all the time. Once I was off BC, I definitely wanted it more and I let him know.

2) Favorite position? For me, either cowgirl or missionary (only positions I ever orgasm in). For him, pretty much any position in which my back is toward him.

3) Do toys ever make their way into the equation? We tried a couple of times (at my instigation), but it was just kind of awkward.

4) Spanking - Ouch NO! or Yes please? Around the house, yes! In bed, not so much. Though I will grab his ass and hold on.

5) Slow and romantic or fast and rough? 100% depends on my mood. But both are good!

6) The bum - exit only or part of the fun? NO!!! I tried it for DH ONCE. Never again.

7) Porn - gross or a turn on? Never tried watching it...seriously. I think it would just be too weird.

8) Has sex with DH changed since beginning TTC? We had more of it, and while I definitely initiated the most around when I thought a FW was coming up, we never felt forced.

9) Noises - Shhhhhh don't wake up the neighbors or LOUD AND PROUD? LOUD baby!! DH has actually closed our bedroom windows before because he didn't want the neighbors to hear me.

10) Most embarrassing sex mishap? I really don't know! I can't think of anything.

sgautschi · April 2014

1a) How often do you and your hubby have sex? Not enough...like 2-3 times a month right now. Used to be 2-3 a week.

1b) Who is usually the initiator? Both

2) Favorite position? Doggy style

3) Do toys ever make their way into the equation? They haven't, but we have plans to use them in order to spice things up again.

4) Spanking - Ouch NO! or Yes please? On occasion

5) Slow and romantic or fast and rough? Depends on my mood, but I like both.

6) The bum - exit only or part of the fun? Part of the fun on occasion, like maybe a couple times a year.

7) Porn - gross or a turn on? Turn on

8) Has sex with DH changed since beginning TTC? Yes, it was more fun and spontaneous during TTC because we didn't have to worry about condoms. Now with TTA we have to make more of an effort to get our sex life back.

9) Noises - Shhhhhh don't wake up the neighbors or LOUD AND PROUD? Depends on where we are, but usually somewhere in between. Neither one of us is very loud in general, but we also aren't super quiet.

10) Most embarrassing sex mishap? Can't think of anything right now.

Venti29 · April 2014

1a) How often do you and your hubby have sex?

About once a week. Lame.

1b) Who is usually the initiator?

He is.

2) Favorite position?

Depends. Reverse cowgirl is always a winner.

3) Do toys ever make their way into the equation?

Yes. If it's been too long I'll bring it out! The buzzing from the bedroom let's him know.

4) Spanking - Ouch NO! or Yes please?

A little.

5) Slow and romantic or fast and rough?

Both.

6) The bum - exit only or part of the fun?

Both.

7) Porn - gross or a turn on?

Both.

8) Has sex with DH changed since beginning TTC?

Yes, but it's gotten better now. Not as often though.

9) Noises - Shhhhhh don't wake up the neighbors or LOUD AND PROUD?

Umm. Depends on what he's doing.

10) Most embarrassing sex mishap?
Farting at the same time as O.
Ugh.

I'm worried someone IRL will see this.
Damn.

PandPMeant2B · April 2014

1a) How often do you and your hubby have sex? About 4x/week.. sometimes more, sometimes less.

1b) Who is usually the initiator? He is... 90% of the time

2) Favorite position? Depends. Usually either me on my stomach with one leg bent or me on my side with him sort of behind me.

3) Do toys ever make their way into the equation? Nah, I think it would make DH feel insecure and I don't really care either way.

4) Spanking - Ouch NO! or Yes please? I like it, but DH doesn't like doing it. Grabbing and digging fingers (no scratching) works better for us.

5) Slow and romantic or fast and rough? Depends...

6) The bum - exit only or part of the fun? Exit only! Please and thank you.

7) Porn - gross or a turn on? Turn on for me, but DH and I have never watched together. I guess we're pretty boring, but I'm okay with it; we're happy.

8) Has sex with DH changed since beginning TTC? I initiated more around O, but that was about it.

9) Noises - Shhhhhh don't wake up the neighbors or LOUD AND PROUD? Depends if my step son is home.

10) Most embarrassing sex mishap? We were in a hotel one night for a music festival and the next morning several of our friends were asking us if we heard the "really loud couple who was having way too much fun last night." Maybe we were more proud than embarrassed....

Apollo11235 · April 2014

1a) How often do you and your hubby have sex? On average, once or twice a week.

1b) Who is usually the initiator? It's pretty split, I think

2) Favorite position? DH likes me from behind with me on my tummy and my legs together; I like missionary but with my feet over my head

3) Do toys ever make their way into the equation? Yup

4) Spanking - Ouch NO! or Yes please? I'm a fan if it's one of those that sounds like it hurts more than it does, but if it actually does hurt I get distracted more than anything.

5) Slow and romantic or fast and rough? Depends on the mood how we start, but it always gets fast before too long. Rough depends on the mood as well.

6) The bum - exit only or part of the fun? I could maybe be a fan, but it's a trigger for me

7) Porn - gross or a turn on? Fun, but I end up distracted more than anything if it stays on.

8) Has sex with DH changed since beginning TTC? We're TTA, but it's gotten way better since going off BCP

9) Noises - Shhhhhh don't wake up the neighbors or LOUD AND PROUD? Loud and proud

10) Most embarrassing sex mishap? Not with DH, but my mom walked in on me and an ex-boyfriend once.

MrsFreeman2010 · April 2014

1a) How often do you and your hubby have sex? 1-2x a week, sometimes more ETA: sorry my ipad formatting sucks 1b) Who is usually the initiator? Used to be just him, now it's about 50/50 2) Favorite position? DH likes doggy or cowgirl, me missionary or cowgirl 3) Do toys ever make their way into the equation? Sometimes 4) Spanking - Ouch NO! or Yes please? Sometimes in foreplay 5) Slow and romantic or fast and rough A little mix of both 6) The bum - exit only or part of the fun? Tried it once and not our thing 7) Porn - gross or a turn on? Not gross but not for us 8) Has sex with DH changed since beginning TTC? For most of the month no but around O time it can get old and forced. DH feels like there's a lot of pressure 9) Noises - Shhhhhh don't wake up the neighbors or LOUD AND PROUD? Loud and proud 10) Most embarrassing sex mishap We have broken two beds, the frame of one bed and the box spring of another. Maybe we do lean more towards fast and rough

callitcompulsive · April 2014

1a) How often do you and your hubby have sex? I'd say it averages to at least 1-2 times a week. Sometimes more, sometimes less. It's a whole lot better than it was so I ain't complaining!

1b) Who is usually the initiator? Me

2) Favorite position? doggy style.

3) Do toys ever make their way into the equation? Not with H. He's really rather vanilla.

4) Spanking - Ouch NO! or Yes please? Yes please!

5) Slow and romantic or fast and rough? fast and rough.

6) The bum - exit only or part of the fun? NEWP. Stay out.

7) Porn - gross or a turn on? Turn on. Although H and I have never watched together. We have VERY different tastes.

8) Has sex with DH changed since beginning TTC? Yes! But it's not a bad thing! I don't think it has much to do with TTC though.. H just managed to find his mojo around the same time we decided to start trying.

9) Noises - Shhhhhh don't wake up the neighbors or LOUD AND PROUD? lol I try talking dirty but I just sound ridiculous and laugh at myself. and kill the mood in the meantime. Sooo nothing over the top.

10) Most embarrassing sex mishap? lol that's a funny story for me and him. I don't think you'd like to hear it.

Apollo11235 · April 2014

@callitcompulsive I'm so happy to hear that things are going better for you and YH! I'm thinking it's super weird for me to be taking a personal interest in your sex life, but I can't help it. I remember your updates from the TTA threads a while back and smiled so hard for you when I read this post!

iteachkids81 · April 2014

1a) How often do you and your hubby have sex?

Once every couple weeks or so as of late (he's been traveling a lot for work, we have slight differences in schedules, and we've both been crazy busy with settling into the new house. Hopefully we'll get frisky more often over the next few months)

1b) Who is usually the initiator? we both initiate, although the last few times i initiated he was too tired to do more than just make out a little bit.

2) Favorite position? doggy or me on top

3) Do toys ever make their way into the equation? not when we're together

4) Spanking - Ouch NO! or Yes please? YES!

5) Slow and romantic or fast and rough? somewhere in the middle

6) The bum - exit only or part of the fun? exit only

7) Porn - gross or a turn on? turn on for both of us

8) Has sex with DH changed since beginning TTC? not TTC yet

9) Noises - Shhhhhh don't wake up the neighbors or LOUD AND PROUD? loud

10) Most embarrassing sex mishap? not being able to figure out how to get doggy style to work. it seriously took us a few weeks of trying to realize how to position our legs properly...

callitcompulsive · April 2014

Apollo11235 said:

@callitcompulsive I'm so happy to hear that things are going better for you and YH! I'm thinking it's super weird for me to be taking a personal interest in your sex life, but I can't help it. I remember your updates from the TTA threads a while back and smiled so hard for you when I read this post!

Aww thanks Apollo!! I feel special now

TonyConrad · July 2014

1a) How often do you and your hubby have sex? Once a week 1b) Who is usually the initiator? Me always 2) Favorite position? Varies 3) Do toys ever make their way into the equation? Only a paddle 4) Spanking - Ouch NO! or Yes please? Yes please! 5) Slow and romantic or fast and rough? In the middle somewhere apart from the spanking. 6) The bum - exit only or part of the fun? Part of the fun butt cheeks not anal. 7) Porn - gross or a turn on? Mental adultery I think. 8) Has sex with DH changed since beginning TTC? Whats' TTC? 9) Noises - Shhhhhh don't wake up the neighbors or LOUD AND PROUD? We close the double glazed windows but the sound is a turn on for me. 10) Most embarrassing sex mishap? None funny enough